Meet Bonnie, A Loving Mother And A Sex Worker Living In Denmark

The Huffington Post  | By Priscilla Frank

Posted: 10/30/2014 9:37 am EDT Updated: 10/30/2014 2:59 pm EDT

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This is Bonnie Cleo Andersen. She's the mother of Michella, who is 16 years old; Oliver, who is 15; and Noa, who is six. She is also a self-professed prostitute, working legally in a small house in a village in the east of Denmark.

Image courtesy Marie Hald

"I first met Bonnie while I was doing a project on my final semester of school," photographer Marie Hald explained in an email to The Huffington Post. "We were given totally free boundaries to start a project. I had always been interested in the subject of prostitution, since it is a legal profession in Denmark. I was mostly interested in finding a woman who wasn't the typical stereotype of a prostitute. What I really wanted to find was a woman with a family, living a 'normal' life. And so I found Bonnie."

Hald found Bonnie from a website and soon got in contact with her. She went to visit her at the brothel where Bonnie worked, and the two talked for hours. "In between our talking, custumers came in," Hald said, "and so I just sat there eating chocolate while hearing her 'work.' That was a wild start."

Image courtesy Marie Hald

Over the course of the following year, Hald followed Bonnie and recorded the intimate details of her life, both personal and professional. She discovered, for instance, that while Noa thinks his mom works as a housekeeper, the older children know the truth, and are often bullied as a result during school.

Through this period she became close with Bonnie's entire family, learning their hopes, goals and fears. "Bonnie's goal with participating in my project was to show the world that she is a whole person, not just her profession. Her number one aim in life is being a good mother for her children."

Image courtesy Marie Hald

Hald's photographic portrait captures the many roles Bonnie embodies in a single day -- mother, friend, sex worker, human being. The images, simultaneously brutal and beautiful, depict a life filled with hardship, pain and love. Although a number of the images capture the explicit details of sex work often kept behind closed doors, many offer mundane and touching moments between family and friends that look, above all else, familiar.

"I want people to get a look into a world that is not normally open for people to see. I have tried to show Bonnie's life as honest as I could, brutal as it may be."

See Bonnie's story, with captions provided by Hald, below.

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  Bonnie Cleo Andersen has been a prostitute since the age of 18. Her first time having sex for money was at a visit at a brothel in a small town. Bonnie and her girlfriend were in need of money and wanted to try it out. The experience was unpleasant and Bonnie was shy and ashamed of her body. But because of the money, she stayed in the sex industry.
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  When Bonnie is at work, she calls herself Patricia. It's a way of separating herself from her work.
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  The single most important thing in Bonnie's life is her children. Her hope is that they will have a better childhood and life than her own. The 14-year old Oliver is hanging out with some bad kids and getting into trouble. Because of this, Bonnie has decided to send Oliver to a Boarding school on a boat in the Caribbean.
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  Bonnies youngest son, 6-year old Noa, thinks that his mother works as a housekeeper. The older children know what their mother does for a living, and so does their school, the community and their friends. It isn't easy on the children, and they have been bullied and asked how much their mother costs.
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  When the family is asleep, Bonnie has the house to herself. She makes plans for the next day and smokes a cigarette.
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  In a small village in Sealand, Bonnie owns a house where she works every day from nine to four. When her day is over, she picks up her kids and drives home to her real house in another nearby village.
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  Bonnie's oldest son Oliver is getting confirmed at the local church. Beside Bonnie is her mother Doris, her stepfather, oldest daughter Michella and a friend. Bonnie has a lot of bad memories from her childhood. Her mother and father took the children to the local bar instead of sending them to school. And at an early age her father was sent to prison for murder.
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  The family has a party for Oliver's confirmation. Bonnie dances with her best friend who comforts her because she's feeling sad.
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  Bonnie and the kids are hanging out when the kids are home from school. They are often off to different activities during the day: Michella takes care of her horse, Marcus and Oliver rides motor cross bikes with their friends. This afternoon they are all home and having a good time.
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  Tattoos mean a lot to Bonnie. She has them as memories about important things in her life. A lot of them are memories about her sister Pernille. Lately she has been getting a lot of new ones. The most recent one is a necklace with a cross.  
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  16-year old Michella has a girlfriend who is learning how to do tattoos. On a Friday night, drinking pina coladas, Bonnie gets a tattoo on her arm. She doesn't think it hurts a bit.
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  If Bonnie could earn the same amount of money doing something else, she would do so. She has no self-esteem and suffers from temporary pain in her body. But her job is what she knows best and she likes the joy and pleasure she gives to her costumers.
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  The family is saying goodbye to Oliver, who is going away for a year to the Caribbean. Everyone cries uncontrollably when they hug him for the last time.
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  Bonnie doesn't hope that her children one day will work in the sex industry. But if they do so, Bonnie will help them so that they don't have to go through the bad stuff that she went through herself.

Φωτορεπόρτερ αποτυπώνει σε καρέ τη σκληρή ζωή μιας ιερόδουλης στη Δανία. Την καθημερινότητα μιας γυναίκας που εργάζεται σαν πόρνη, αποτυπώνει με το φακό της η φωτορεπόρτερ Marie Hald.

Η τελευταία δουλειά της Hald φέρει τον τίτλο «Bonnie, μια ζωή στην πορνεία». Πρωταγωνίστρια η 39χρονη Bonnie, μητέρα τριών παιδιών από τη Δανία.

Από την ηλικία των 18 εργάζεται ,καθώς τότε είχε την πρώτη της σεξουαλική επαφή επί πληρωμή σε έναν οίκο ανοχής σε μια μικρή πόλη, καθώς χρειάζονται χρήματα.

Η Bonnie σήμερα έχει μένει με την οικογένεια της, σε ένα μικρό χωριό στο Sealand. Δουλεύει κάθε μέρα από τις 9 μέχρι τις 4 και όταν τελειώνει η βάρδιά της, πηγαίνει να πάρει τα παιδιά της. Η μεγαλύτερη κόρη της είναι η 16χρονη Michella η οποία έχει το δικό της διαμέρισμα, ότι ο 14χρονος γιος της Oliver ζει μαζί της. Ο 6χρονος τέλος, Noa, νομίζει ότι η μητέρα του εργάζεται σαν καθαρίστρια.

Το μεγαλύτερο παιδί γνωρίζει τη δουλειά της Bonnie, όπως και το σχολείο αλλά και η κοινότητα, κάτι που δημιουργεί πρόβλημα στα δύο μεγαλύτερα παιδιά καθώς δέχονται ερωτήσεις όπως «πόσο κοστίζει» η μητέρα τους.