Τα παιδιά που μεγαλώνουν σε πολυσυντροφικές οικογένειες (με πάνω από δύο γονείς) είμαι μια χαρά!
Όπως περιγράφει την οικογενειακή της κατάσταση μία 17χρονη, το μόνο θέμα που έχει η ίδια και τα αδέρφια της είναι το ότι πρέπει να το εξηγεί όλη την ώρα.
"Υπάρχει πάντα ένας γονέας εκεί αν χρειάζεσαι κάτι ή κάποι@ να μιλήσεις. Αν έχεις θέμα με κάποιον γονέα, έχεις άλλους να το συζητήσεις. Πάνω απ'όλα, με έχει κάνει πολύ πιο ανοιχτόμυαλο και ειλικρινές άτομο. Έμαθα από μικρή να αποδέχομαι και να υποστηρίζω εναλλακτικούς τρόπους ζωής. Οι 'κανόνες' της σχέσης των γονιών μου έχουν εφαρμοστεί και στη δική μου ζωή: ειλικρίνια, επικοινωνία, το να αφήνεις την εαυτή σου να διασκεδάζει καμιά φορά, το να είσαι πιο ανοιχτή, και πολύ καλύτερο γούστο στη μουσική.
Εν ολίγοις, το να ζω σε μία πολυσυντροφική οικογένεια μου έχει φέρει μόνο θετικά αποτελέσματα. Θα μπορούσα να μιλάω επί σελίδες για τους τρόπους που αυτή η σχέση επηρεάζει εμένα και τα αδέρφια μου, αλλά μου είπαν να κάνω μία γρήγορη περίληψη.
Τα παιδιά μπορούν να καταλάβουν την πολυσυντροφικότητα, όπως καταλαβαίνουν και την ομοφυλοφιλία, απλά πρέπει να τους μάθεις ότι δεν είναι καθόλου κακό."
- Γρανίτα Λεμόνι
KIDS? POLY? HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?
So people keep asking about kids, and how they handle poly situations, especially live ins.
So I asked my 17 year old stepdaughter to give you guys her side, I haven’t even read it, I’m pasting it in this field and just hitting “post”. Hopefully she said nothing too terrible about me.
“Do You Have One Parent or Two?
Every year, school has this run of surveys the students fill out for the Data Management classes. The first time I had ever had a problem with one of these questionnaires was when I got one called, “How Your Parental Situation Effects You” and one of the questions was, “Do you live with one parent or two?” It had options for if you lived with your mom, dad, both or a step parent. I struggled because there wasn’t even an “other” option.
Unfortunately for the kids in that data class, I have one of the most unique family dynamics you could mash together. I live with my mom, my step dad, and his girlfriend. Apparently the issue has come up of how a teen, or any children, can live successfully in this environment. In full honesty, I see no negative long lasting side effects on the children. The only issues we’re really going to have is trying to explain it all the time. My siblings are both under 12 and they’ve never seen anything confusing about it.
Living with such an obscure lifestyle has opened a lot of doors for me. There is always a parent around if you need something or someone to talk too. If you’re having an issue with one parent, you can have another discuss it. Most of all, it has created a more open minded, honest person of me. I was taught early to be accepting and supportive of alternative lifestyles, and this living situation has done nothing but secure it. The “rules” of my parents’ relationship have been applied to my own life; honesty, communication, allowing myself to have fun sometimes, being more open, and a lot better music.
In conclusion, living in a polyamorous family has done nothing but provide positive outcomes. I could go on for pages about the ways the relationship effects me or my siblings, but I was told to sum it up pretty fast. Children are capable of understanding polyamory just like they can understand homosexuality, you just have to teach them that there’s nothing wrong with it.”
Unfortunately for the kids in that data class, I have one of the most unique family dynamics you could mash together. I live with my mom, my step dad, and his girlfriend. Apparently the issue has come up of how a teen, or any children, can live successfully in this environment. In full honesty, I see no negative long lasting side effects on the children. The only issues we’re really going to have is trying to explain it all the time. My siblings are both under 12 and they’ve never seen anything confusing about it.
Living with such an obscure lifestyle has opened a lot of doors for me. There is always a parent around if you need something or someone to talk too. If you’re having an issue with one parent, you can have another discuss it. Most of all, it has created a more open minded, honest person of me. I was taught early to be accepting and supportive of alternative lifestyles, and this living situation has done nothing but secure it. The “rules” of my parents’ relationship have been applied to my own life; honesty, communication, allowing myself to have fun sometimes, being more open, and a lot better music.
In conclusion, living in a polyamorous family has done nothing but provide positive outcomes. I could go on for pages about the ways the relationship effects me or my siblings, but I was told to sum it up pretty fast. Children are capable of understanding polyamory just like they can understand homosexuality, you just have to teach them that there’s nothing wrong with it.”
twra diladi ti zitate? gamo 3 atomwn? Na me tetoia den pame mprosta,....
ΑπάντησηΔιαγραφήκαθένας/καθεμία ορίζει ως "οικογένεια" αυτό που εκείνος/η βιώνει μέσα στο σπίτι του. Το να επισημαίνεις ότι υπάρχουν και άλλες δομές εκτός από αυτές που είναι αποδεκτές κοινωνικά δεν καταλαβαίνω γιατί είναι τόσο πολύ πρόβλημα; όσο αφήνουμε τους ανθρώπους να ζουν την ζωή τους χωρίς εμμονή στα στερεότυπα σίγουρα πάμε μπροστά.
Διαγραφήδεν ζητάμε τίποτα από σένα και ούτε σου παίρνουμε τίποτα .
ΑπάντησηΔιαγραφήεπίσης μπροστά δεν πάμε ζητώντας από την πολιτεία το δικαίωμα να δημιουργησουμε τις οικογένειές μας !!!
και ΝΑΙ υπάρχουν και οικογένειες πολυσυντροφικές που ζούνε ανάμεσα σας.